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The big mistake

  Have you ever made a mistake? One that maybe didn't seem like a mistake at the moment, but as time went on, you realized that the choice was the wrong one? Well, what can I do but swallow my pride and admit that I made a mistake when I named my daughter. There, I said it, I gave my only little girl the wrong name.
  Callae was one of those names that I randomly just threw out there, and Russ happened to love it... and so did I until we started using it on a daily basis. She was only a few months old when I realized how difficult this name was, it just didn't roll off the tongue easily, in fact I even found myself having to practice it in my head before it came out. I mentioned it to Russ a few times but he just blew it off and I tried to deal with it. Finally when she was 8 months old I couldn't take it anymore. After much discussion my idea to change the name completely was shot down (due to the fact that Russ didn't want to take the ridicule), Russ did however agree to change the spelling. Despite my better judgement I agreed, thinking that would help. It didn't.
  My sweet girl is now 13 months and after a lot of lost sleep, tears, prayers and even a few fights, we have decided to change her name.  
  A couple of days ago we started calling her Zoey (officially it will be Zoey Kalei). It felt weird at first but I'm surprised at how natural it is becoming. We feel good about this change and I finally feel at peace. The name fits her perfectly and I'm confident that it will make her life easier in the long run.
  Thank you to my amazing husband for understanding my need to do this, and to my mom and a few wonderful friends for supporting me and loving me despite my high strung, obsessive personality (yes, I've come to terms with it). And to all you haters who are gossiping in your head even now, feel free to keep it to yourself because we don't care what you think!

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  1. Huke, Lollie, and Gracie!October 13, 2011 at 9:51 PM

    you gotta stay true to your feelings and know one else's thoughts matter. I don't think anyone would be gossiping about this cause I don't see anything wrong. It is your choice and you are brave to do what you feel is right even if there are haters. Whatev! Can't wait to meet the new Zoey! :)SO cute btw!

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  2. SarahOctober 13, 2011 at 10:22 PM

    Zoey is a beautiful name. She is beautiful. You and Russ are amazing parents. I'm happy you are at peace, and that it feels good. xoxo

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  3. AnonymousOctober 14, 2011 at 3:21 PM

    So glad you took the plunge. Zoey Callae is a beautiful name and it fits her well. As the parent who changed both of her kids original names, I totally "get it". Lots of love, Heather

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  4. Lorna ShafferOctober 14, 2011 at 6:09 PM

    She's beautiful no matter what you call her! I'm glad you're happy with your decision. Good hubby--way to be supportive!
    Love you, Mom

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  5. ScarlettOctober 15, 2011 at 9:54 AM

    Amy, you are one amazing person. That does take a lot of guts for a lot of reasons. I personally LOVE Zoey! It's such a cute name. Perfect for such a cute little girl. And I really don't think there will be any haters. There is nothing wrong with what you did. You are doing what is best for your daughter, and that is very admirable. :)

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  6. Becca BellOctober 16, 2011 at 8:55 PM

    Way to go with what you think is right! Both names are beautiful and she is too. I was watching her in church today. She's a doll!

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